Letters To Upcoming Mothers

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The reason why most children, venture into something they do not want is nothing but lack of parental care.


Why do you think the rate at which people get involved in abominable things increases incessantly? it is lack of parental care


Dear upcoming parents, be very sure you are ready to cater for your children when you get married.


Do not get married because of pressure from family and friends. It affects, it can make one marry wrong and a wrong marriage can never be productive. 

As a lady, be patient enough to receive good home trainings in and outside your home.


Attend seminars about how to handle marriage and prepare your home.


Read books on parental care so that you don't jump from one man's house to another as a result of problem. 


Lack of preparation most times, causes failure. The reason why some women jump from one husband to another is because they did not prepare before getting married which can lead to divorce.



Do not marry out of wedlock no matter what. Marriage out of wedlock most times makes the family and marriage fail.


Marry from your tribe. I don't mean as a Yoruba lady, you should marry a Yoruba man. What I meant is that you should marry someone whom you have the same beliefs and views together to aid understanding in the marriage so that the marriage can work out.



Do not go into marriage with the mentality that everything will always be sweet. No, crisis will come, challenges will come but the question is, will you be able to stand the test of time? Will your spouse be proud of you after you overcome a particular challenge or otherwise? Will you be able to stand with your spouse, hold hands with him during the test of time or you run away? Will you be able to fulfill the part of your oath "For better, for worse"?


Do not marry someone you cannot submit to. It ruins marriages.


Do not get involved in adultery. Any parent that gets involved in this act most times neglect their children which can affect them. 


Make sure you are fit enough in every area of life; financially, spiritually, emotionally, career wise. As a lady, make sure you are financially stable. Find something doing before getting into marriage because marriage changes a lot of things in one's life.


Ask questions from your parents, mentors, teachers and mother figures. Be ready to receive corrections and trainings so that your children will not be affected. Do not forget that their lives too matters a lot. Be patient to learn, unlearn and relearn.


©️ Joy Adebimpe Bepo

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