Relationship And Money 💰

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Hmmmnnnnn

Over the years people in relationship tend to have different perception when it comes to the issue of finance.


Here are some questions as regards the issue of money.


 Is your partner dealing with financial struggle?  Is your partner in debt? Does he/she shy from financial responsibility? Is your partner a spendthrift and pay less attention to saving? 


All these and many more poises a lot which can be  a red flag.


However research have shown that a man/woman who is not generous (giver ) in a relationship will not do better in marriage. 


How do you discuss finance in relationship, many a counselor will tell you discuss everything while courting, 

so in the area of finance please how do you go about it.??


Finance is a big issue for me its something I have experience first hand.


I had this dude I was in a relationship with oh leading to marriage, do u know I have no idea of his salary anytime I bring up the issue is as if I want to know the range of his income so I can start billing him, I had no such intention. 

Omoo I left the relationship for me it was a red flag.  I quit the relationship because he was not ready to discuss finance how to spend, save, invest etc...

Here are some thoughts from people on how to discuss money in a relationship/marriage.


 #THOUGHT#


Well, I'll like to come from this angle...I am not a party to a one sided story especially when it has to do with spelling out people's faults.


*How long has your courtship been going for?

*How do you discuss and handle matters?

*What challenges have you both been facing in this relationship?


There are a lot of unsaid and unanswered questions Darling.


The discussion didn't start from "tell me your finance and all that"... you know there are waters under the bridge before then!


But let's just assume it's just about the finance talk.


Aunty it's really nothing!

You asked about his finance and he refused telling because you refused telling too and you vex...no naaaa....no naaaa


Why not turn it to a joke, play around it and you'll get your results. 


We don't have to be *'too uptight"* always.


Men are like babies...and sometimes needs to be treated as such and before you know it they will fall helplessly to what we want.


Let me also quickly ask

*Do you have a counselor?

*Who oversees your relationship?

*Who do you talk to when you meet a headlong?

*Who does he listen to???


Cut him some slack ma please... I'm begging on his behalf. Don't be in a haste to read meanings to every actions... make excuses for him Darling.


We are from different homes, having different mindsets and upbringing.

We need to be more tolerating sometimes


Share your thoughts on this


Have an amazing weekend @yoursugargurl.com





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