FRIENDSHIP IN RELATIONSHIP
Over the years studies have shown
that you must understand the values of friendship in a relationship that is why
experts advise that you must be friends with whomever you are joining your life
with. they say “marry your friend” A friend is a person with whom one has a
bond of mutual affection typically one exclusive of sexual or family relation
according to Google. According to the
oxford dictionary friendship simply means the state of being friendly, having
companionship fellowship and so on. It could also mean someone, whom you could
talk to, spend time with, share feelings and experiences with no hidden
motives. Someone who is ready to hear you out, not judgmental but corrects you
when necessary, who sees you for who you are, not slanderous in nature, who
willingly supports your dreams and aspirations in life, makes your secret
confidential and don’t hurt you with your past.
Now take a recess with a sip of chill coffee and create a mental picture
being in a relationship with the personality above… its glaring the smile on
your face. As you know, a sea ship is meant to take people and goods from one
place to another. According to a writer, every relation (ship), friend (ship), partner
(ship), court (ship) must be taking you somewhere or must have landed you somewhere
(better places, make you a better person and must have positively transforms
you) else get down the ship and let it wreck. If you are not free to gist and
laugh with your friends then a relationship/marriage won’t work, when tough
times arise you need a friend to get your back, you can tell your friend
anything everything.
However every relationship must first and foremost start from friendship
that is, getting to know the person using what we have in the first paragraphs
to access the person you are with. A wise man once said “a thousand miles
begins with a step and again another also said a friend in need is a friend indeed
(let those you call a friend always be there for you), decipher the motif of
the relationship, work things out , enjoy every movement of the moment with each
other, creates time no matter the busy schedules, a real friend doesn’t drag cold feet for
opportunities, must be serious, right? This person won’t do little less when
you start dating or courting.
Friendship and relationship work paripasu prior to this discussion on the table it goes
beyond walking down the aisle of an expensive restaurants making reservations in
five star hotels, cruising on latest Ferrari or even having Adams Michelle and
Fendi Roma at your beck and call. its having that someone with whom you have a
common interest. your friend knows your strength and weaknesses, sees your
fault and still choose to love you anyways .In the same vein, you need these
characteristics/virtues of a great friendship possessed in your relationship
with your partner because it will help you guys stand the test of time (when the going gets tough its
only the tough that gets going), a time will surface where every feelings,
romance and attraction won’t be honey berry, sometimes they get on your nerves
and piss you off. Have you needed something more deeper and stronger to pull
you both together? its friendship .
In conclusion however, put in time and effort to build genuine
friendship, don’t only focus on the emotions, romance and attractions though
these are candid but don’t neglect the force of friendship cause you can always
hold onto a friend. This remains my
point of view. I am open to suggestions, comments, critics and recommendations.
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this helpful in your daily application to relational threatening issues
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