Essentials Of Waiting
6 ESSENTIALS THINGS TO DO WHILE WAITING
I would grow sloppy if I don’t tell you
this, before you walk down the aisle with your proposed spouse or while
waiting, these 6 steps will help you checkmate yourself and who you are getting
married to…
Over the years many couples find it hard to believe what they see few months after their wedding, reasons
being that they concentrate more on wedding planning rather than marriage in
itself according to Bimbo Odukoya of blessed memory she says and I quote’’ Wedding is a day but marriage
is a lifetime’’ why spend so much time
planning for an event that is just meant to last few hours ,am not
saying it isn’t good to plan a beautiful wedding with cream of the society, but
it will be of great and spontaneous benefits
if we put an extra effort to plan
and prepare for a successful marriage that would take 50-60 years. That’s why I
feel this article will go along a way to prepare you for a life course journey.
These are the crucial things you must do while on the pipeline of settling
down;
1. PLAN
Often said that good planners are great achievers,
therefore whatever you want you must plan it, you would ask yourself certain
questions like what kind of marriage do I you want? How can I make it work? Do
you want the marriage of your parents or better? Nobody wants to short-live a
happy marriage and mind you when you fail in the business of marriage you
should have failed 75% of your life.
THINGS TO LOOK OUT FOR WHEN PLANNING
·
Plan your parenting style
·
Communication style ( what language to
speak at early age of your kids, M.T / official Lang?)
·
Plan the finance
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The type of car you wish to acquire
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The kind of music you want in your home
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Plan food purchase (weekly or monthly),food
menu
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Who to pay major bills
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The size of the house you want
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Plan delicacies and get new recipes
·
plan as far as what kind of books to
read (Educational ,Religious, Academic, Thriller, Short Stories, Horror etc)
2. PRAY
Prayer is the bedrock of every strong
foundation; it goes beyond money answering all. Before you meet your spouse its
advisable to pray for him/her, pray for his/her strength to overcome temptation,
to stay faithful, overcome fear of the unknown, strength to stay pure in heart
and body, strength to make wealth , strength to procreate great and excellent
kids, strength to raise them. There are one thousand and one thing to pray for
when waiting for the lord to give you the right spouse so, instead of watching
and waiting why not wait and pray.
3. PREPARE
An
old saying goes thus “ proper preparation prevents poor performance “ growing
up I call this a tongue twister rhyme, in this page I want you to know that a marriage
you don’t prepare your mind for will only last like a daily debacle, however
every intending couple must be psychologically ready to take care of not just themselves but for their partners as well. you must ask yourself the following
questions;
Can
you stand for your partner when they lost their jobs?
Can
you be by their side when cast down with an ailment?
Would
you risk you finance to save their lives?
Can
you help them achieve their dreams/goals?
To
prepare your mind as an intending spouse its advisable to:
·
Ask
the right intricate questions.
·
Go
for counseling( you have not been married before so you don’t know what to expect)
·
Read
marriage books
·
seek
knowledge( shun shame)
· Attend
relationship/marriage seminars
4.
HAVE AN AMBITION
Do
something you most cherished, get busy, don’t be idle and independent all the
time, get a career and if you aren’t a career person get an interesting job and
work sorry am harsh. If you are already busy aim higher, improve your ideas, products, brands.
Lemme make this clear to you, we are no longer in a world of opportunities but in a
world of competition, if you remain complacent, sporadically you will be left
behind .believe you me you would attract someone who’s in love with a person
with your kind of job or career.’’Don't go everywhere because you will end up
nowhere’’ do something and be focus
5.
POSITION YOURSELF
Station
yourself in a place or environment where you can find the kind of person you want,
if you want a God fearing partner for instance visit religious gathering where you can find such caliber of person. But positioning matters a lot especially when you
are single and wanna mingle.Take yourself out,visit the cinema, attend social
6.
HAVE AN ALLURING ATTITUDE
Lastly having a pleasant attitude towards everyone that comes your way its incurably amazing, you never can
tell, meeting your could be by match making or by recommendation, just like lecturers
recommend books, people also recommend spouse .And again possess the attitude of
your intending spouse this isn’t hard its necessary though you might not know
him/her or have seen him/her have whatever attitude or qualities you want them to have. If you want them to be intelligent,
neat, well dressed, have good sense of humor, speak fluently in a particular language
you too must posses the same character
just like the old saying ‘’ you attract who you are’’ or like attracts like’’
In
conclusion however these 6(six) steps will help you as you intend to settle
down and stop chasing shadows, and you strictly adhere to them by reading the
following recommended books that have been read and screened for your
consumption while you wait or prepare for marriage, note you can’t give what
you don’t have… I remain your humble love coach and mentor.
RECOMMENDED BOOKS
·
The
five love language by Gary Chapman
·
Singles,
married and life after divorce by Myles Munroe
·
Praying
for your future husband(Both) by Robin Jones and Tricia Goye
