Topnotch For Relationship Schlep

5 TOPNOTCH FOR RELATIONSHIP AND MARRIAGE

Its often said that ignorant is a disease that is incurable by a physician, therefore be ignoramus it’s a big prize to be paid in future when you fail to follow certain germane principles of relationships and marriage. Many a time in our walk of finding perfect relationship a lot of things become nebulous that leaves  us scattered and battered. Here are 5 facts that will open your eyes into what a meaningful relationship should actually entails….

·       Physical affinity

·       say what you mean and mean what you say

·       Goals and visions

·       Motives in relationship

·       Maturity in relationship.

All these facts will be explicated below  as you ensure to keep your eyes glued to the screen I assure  you that after  reading this piece you get a more wider and beautiful understanding ;

1.   Deciding based on physical affinity: love should be build on respect, trust, healthy communication and not the other way round, am not saying you mustn’t have a particular taste of what you want but physical things should not be the foundation of any relationship that wants to go a long way. Do you know why this generation won’t be free from the heart break of pre-marital sex, dating failure, divorces, regrets, depressions, resentments ?it’s because they still decide based on  physical attraction. Love in my previous write up I say its man’s greatest gift that is meant to be cherished everything in life should be based on love else let it sink and perish. Love is a choice we make, to give someone our best even when they become their worse. Love can be tested on different levels but make sure your relationship is on the solid rock of love.

2.   Say nothing until you mean something: studies have shown that being calm will stop you from taking some rash decisions, why would you meet someone in less than a week you tell the person you can die for him/her are you serious or you are speaking because you were swept off your feet by this person, be meticulous with your word choice. Some persons are easily moved by what they hear not what you do, don’t make promises you can’t keep, don’t say I love when you know deep down you are infatuated, don’t start what you can’t finish my mum will always tell me this, don’t create a standard you can’t keep up with .say things when you mean them and if at all you are in a situation that requires you to say something think before you talk. Don’t hurt anyone with your words, words are potent and can go a long to mal or make a person’s life.

3.   Every relationship must have a goal: An old proverb says “A man on a mission without a vision will end in division” take for instance you get into a ship and that ship has been rigmaroling, no destination believe you me you will get tired and wanna quit, this is explicitly applicable to every relationship, a relationship that has no goal, no dreams, no visions there will certainly be nothing to fight for during winds and storms there certainly will be  nothing to pull you through tough and thin, no driving or pushing force.  When both of you aren’t working to bring out the best in each other, encourage, support one another to pursue his/her  dreams then there’s no relationship is clearly a game of building castles in the air if  all you do is have sex, have sex and have sex, it will only last for a short while. A genuine relationship must thrive to help you become a better you and make you you. It will thrives to bring you to your dreams, give you a better world view of yourself, of things, of  people, cultures and change your perception. This is what a relationship with goals and purpose will do.

4.   Know the motive of your relationship: this is intent although we can’t see the human mind but ask questions that will give you answers to these questions, I have said it before and am resounding this don’t hang around time wasters, know why you are in that relationship, is it for short or long term? Is just to satisfy consultant pleasures and cravings? is to meet our material needs? Is to have a company whenever you are out with friends? is it to keep up with a standard that was laid to accrue respect? Ask yourself what is he/she in for? What are they up to? Don’t jump into a relationship because is trendy or someone cajoled you to. Take your time if possible do an underground check to know what this person has done before that might likely affect your relationship am not saying you can’t help them change positively but be careful. Ask them questions like where do you see yourself in the next two years? They will tell you and if you are included in his/her plans it means you are going to be part of his/her life sooner or later. You must understand the motives of people who come into your life.

5.   He/she must be matured: when I say matured not of age only but also they must be man/woman enough to want to carry and care for you and your children , they must be spiritually, intellectually, financially matured. Life experiences, books and people are the things that makes someone matured is not age. Someone who knows how to spend and spends well(prudence), someone who is vast knows something about everything could decipher between fair and unfair, someone who whose faith is build on God not wavering this is who I refer to as matured. You can decide to ignore this if you are in an open/casual relationship,remember is germane to every relationship.

In conclusion however never date a person who doesn’t have these 5 principles this is an advise from me to, else you will only end up but in regrets, hurts, heartbreak etc follow these  principles, understand, masticate and apply it to your relationship or marriage journey and I know you would thank me later…I hope you find it interesting and helpful?  have a superb week.