REAL LIFE STORY 001

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STORY QUESTION 001

          Hello viewers this is my own story question, so yesterday my phone rang I picked up the call  it was my boo, we are in an open relationship kinda he is not ready to be committed even when I try to put in my all. First of all he didn’t call me on my birthday, second of all he is seeing someone.5 days after my birthday I called him, at first he didn’t pick up buh he returned the call few hours later I was with my little nieces too busy then I told him I will call when am less busy, fortunately I did and the cat was let out of the bag. People guess what? This dude said he was sick and not only was he sick he could not go out of his room he was indoors for days even his neighbors thought he traveled, little did they know that my boo was indoors and down. He apologized as usual and my reply was I am use to it this isn’t the first time , please help me reason this oh how sick can a person be that he wont be able to type 2 letter words of happy birthday? This is why I have been walking on egg shell in this relationship. 


      I accepted his apology but my instinct told me to ask him if he was seeing another lady, because you cant just come up with a flimsy excuse on my birthday .as usual he thought he has been able to deceive me not knowing he just soiled his own name in the mould of deception, I went ahead and asked behold he said yes . that am too nice of a person to be deceived plus there’s a girl he is been going out with, we spoke at length, I asked about the kinda medication he is taking he told me and kept apologizing.

      I just knew a lady must be involve in this, for him not have dialed my number on or days after my birthday, he quickly opened up and said he loves me to a fault plus he cant hide anything from me actually he met the girl few months ago and she is nothing to him, is not for sex, or whatever I may think buh just the company of it, I  giggled in my spirit, because am no longer a kid that should be spoon fed by rubbish this is 21ist century dude! in my thought I was like what will they be doing? Keep company? What will they discuss? After the chit chats what next? He again said he loves me with d distance he wont be able to cope without the a lady by him, that this is for the main time pending when next I visit him.

        The truth be told have always been away because of my job and school, I love him so mush although we had past issues which has been resolved but  the scar remains. This is my question ,is it right/normal for a guy to have a girlfriend  while he is in distance relationship? Please I need your candid response that will either help me breakaway or pull me through this melodrama. I remain your anonymous blog lover.


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These are salient advise and counsels that have been scrutinized go through them I promise it will go a long way in your decision making policy.

It is very wrong being in a distant relationship doesn’t warrant him to keep another girl. Peradventure you guys decides to get married, he ‘ll also have a girlfriend when he is away from you or when his job is far off from home. Everything you want to see in future starts today this is my struggle@ ofure onobun.
It is not right in all ramification, if he feels it is justifiable for him to have a girlfriend while you guys are in a relationship, citing long distance; then he is a waste of time and a bomb waiting to explode. What excuses will he come up with when you guys are married? He will never be faithful, plus imagine if it was the other way round will he allow the girl do same? If he will then there’s no problem.@ Vicky isiguhzo.
Distant relationship can make some partners do what is not right, am not here to justify his action. for me its totally wrong if you guys agreed on celibacy and in a distance relationship why then should he have a girlfriend, know what you want and go for it.@ A.Augustina
Well enough distance relationship isn’t for everyone, if he didn’t see the distance when you guys started and still claims he loves you and choose to stay celibate, then I don’t know why he should keep another gal for what so ever reason. its so so wrong there’s no justification for that ,it is absolute cheating@ john A.
Thank you guys for taking your time to go through this and a very big thank you to everyone who contributed via opinions and advise, see you next week have a splendid weekend ahead



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