Why Men Cheat

 

Cheating doesn't make you a monster, it shouldn't lead to divorce however men cheat for various reasons. Here are the responses I got from a research on why men cheat.

Women cheat as well but for this post I'll be discussing reasons why men cheat, and when they do it's not a yardstick to snub or derogatorily rebuke them. 

Don't think it's better out there leaving your spouse to remarry someone else because they cheated, identity the causes of cheating and deal with it...💃💃💃

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1. Good sex...... the truth is a lot of people (men) are not sexually satisfied and the wife in turn is doing nothing to improve, level up, and meet up....

2. Most women are dirty and so unkept. They think that being married is enough. When the woman those not take good care of herself and her private parts, some women literally smell and that can push the man outside.

3. Most men don't know God, they don't love God and they don't fear Him. A man with God can never cheat on his wife. I believe that cheating stems from lack of self control.. A man who has self control and is ruled by the spirit of God will not cheat on his wife..

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What pushes men to cheat will be reasons like  not being sexually satisfied, lack of attention from one's wife, dirtiness on the path of the lady, disrespect to the man from his wife

One of the ways their wives can help them stop cheating is by standing in the gap of prayer for them because the truth is that men face temptation on a daily basis and then also committing themselves to satisfying their husbands as they should  both sexually and otherwise but not putting themselves in harm's way though

If a man is not satisfied with the attitude of his wife towards these things, can't he finds a way to improve her or teach her these things. It's one of his duties as a groom. His work is to groom the woman to become whom Christ wants her to become.  The solution is not cheating.

The basis truth is that a man that does not know and love God will cheat on his wife.

My question is how long will women continue to level up(to be in the same standard with sex workers)? It isn't fair.

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What I believe to be the problem here is lack of acceptance (the much a wife can do), lack of contentment(always wanting a different experience), lack of Regard/Respect for the wife, inadequate love and desire, marrying her for a selfish reason(and getting the rest she hasn't from outside), the believe of cheating is in their nature.

Another is lack of care, if a man cares enough for their mental health he Will Make sure he provides his wife with all the sexy clothing he want her to wear or better still tell her how he wants her to always appear.

Of a truth men struggle with resisting tempting ladies but with discipline, love, respect and prayers they can conquer.

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Every married woman should respect her husband, wear attractive clothes especially instead her home, after night bath add some deodorant if possible brush your teeth😁 before going to bed, learn how to cuddle even we he doesn't, learn to still pet him and talk friendly even after a quarrel, serve him like a King he is to you (his cutleries should be different from others), cook with sexy wears and be neat under always.

It's not easy

May God help us and bless us as we strive to keep our spouse Happy and satisfied

*TEN REASONS WHY PEOPLE CHEAT IN MARRIAGE*

When it comes to cheating in marriage, there are different kinds of husbands, and wives, in the world and different reasons why they cheat.

🎯There are *those who cheat because cheating is in their blood*. These ones, no matter how well you please them in bed and out of bed, they will still cheat on you. It doesn't matter who they are or what they do for a living, even if they are preachers that bring fire down from heaven and have everything they want in a marriage, they will still commit adultery. It is in their blood.

Now, what do I mean by it is in the blood? It is not because God created them that way, but because *they created themselves that way*. 

How? 

That is *what they have been doing and how they have been doing since their single days*, and they never did or take the necessary steps that will bring them the needed change.

Sometimes they cheat not because they want to, *but because it is already a part of them*. 

The only thing that can bring a true and permanent change to such men, or women, is *Supernatural Transformation*. This is where serious and focused *prayers and fasting* work so well. God will change them like he changed Paul. It takes the power of God to change such men, or women.

🎯 There are those who cheat because of *lack of peace in the home*. These ones, all you need is just fix the home and they will never cheat again. *If you're not giving your husband, or wife, peace in your marriage*, you're simply writing an invitation letter to adultery to invade your home. Be wise.

🎯 . There are those who cheat because of situations. They find themselves in a *situation of temptation* like Joseph, but they do not use their legs to flee like Joseph did. These ones need just rebuke and *training in discipline*, they will stop it.

🎯 There are those who cheat *because of needs* they have at a time. *They need something that someone has* and that one either directly or indirectly gives them a condition, and because they don't put their trust in God but only in men, they succumb.

🎯 . There are *those who cheat because of business, vision or ambitions*. They want to achieve something but they or their spouses don't have what it takes, so they see someone who has it and decide to go for it. 

The difference between these people and those who cheat because of need is that they are the ones that take what they need by themselves, they are in charge and not controlled by being given a condition. 

🎯  There are *those who cheat because of loneliness*. They travel, their spouse travel, or they are just not around their spouse and have feelings that they can't control. They fall for it, by choice or indiscipline.

🎯 There are *those who cheat because of spiritual manipulations*. In this case they were either charmed or hypnotised and couldn't naturally be in control of themselves, and they fall. 

This is why everyone must pray for themselves and for their spouses against evil people or *spiritual captors*.

🎯 There are *those who cheat because of momentary misunderstanding between them and their spouses*. They have an issue and then go out of the house or so, and decide to clear their mind with a taste of adultery.

🎯 There are *those who cheat for retaliation*: "You did yours, I'll do mine too." They are paying back their spouse who had hurt them or previously cheated on them.

🎯 . There are *those who cheat just to teach their wife, or husband, a lesson*: "I've been telling you to do this or not to do this, and you didn't listen. I'll show you." They do the showing by sleeping with another woman. These ones will let you know they did it and expect you to do your worst.

There are a few other reasons why people cheat on their spouses or commit Adultery in marriage. You as a person must *know who you are and whom you married, what kind of a person are you or what kind of a person did you marry?* Then put measures in place to prevent such from happening to you or in your marriage.

But, if it has already happened and you're still interested in that marriage, then *discover what exactly was the cause of the cheating and fix it*. If the cause of a problem is discovered and removed, then the problem will be easily solved.

A man or woman doesn't necessarily become a bad person because of adultery. We just need to *discover the cause and get it fixed up*.

When David committed adultery, it didn't change him from being who he was. He was still a man after God's heart, but *who was flawed by his character flaw*. Bill Clinton committed adultery and even lied to his whole nation about it for a while, but it didn't turn him into a monster.

Some people that leave their husbands, or wives, because of cheating end up remarrying someone worse than that. That is why you see some people eventually giving up on marriage or divorcing and remarrying only to divorce again.

And, many of those singles that indulge in fornication, you see them breaking up with someone for cheating on them only to *end up with someone worse* than the previous person.

*Prevention is better than cure*. So, if it has not happened to you or in your marriage, take preventive measures now. But if it has happened, *discover the cause and get it fix*.

Also, ask yourself, *what was your own contribution to the problem*. 

Sometimes it's not just all about the adulterer, the "innocent" one cheated upon could be the cause of the problem. 

Ask yourself, *what did I do or not do that made this happen?* Answer sincerely and undo it. You might actually be the cause of that problem. So, fix yourself too, or fix yourself first.

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